Before I begin…Is that not the prettiest little pink 1980’s Easter dress you’ve ever seen? I loved it!
I’m sure she doesn’t remember this, but my very own mom once told me, “Amy Jo, the more people you invite into your life, the more complicated your life becomes.” So simple. So profound. I can’t remember what we were talking about at the time, but those words have stuck with me and definitely proven true over the years. And now, what better proof of this than Facebook? Are you with me? So many interesting people, with such different backgrounds, from so many memorable little slices of our lives…and we now have instant access to all of their funny, sad, depressing, uplifting, and intimate moments of life. It’s amazing and overwhelming all at once. I don’t have the credentials to read and process my own dysfunctional thoughts and baggage, much less some of theirs! And yet I find myself spending hours throughout the week reading and digesting and analyzing other people’s stories that have absolutely no bearing on my life passions or pursuits. Simply put – TIME.WASTED.
So here’s my first suggestion for simplifying your life, and getting a little closer to what you really want – which is passionate, uncluttered, meaningful living. Now, don’t worry! I’m not going to tell you to close down your Facebook account, although that would probably be the best advice, and the advice I myself would follow right after I completed my 12-step program for Facebook addiction. But that’s another story. No, what I’m suggesting here is that you take 10 minutes, today – maybe even NOW, and “hide” some of those people from your Facebook feed. They don’t know and quite honestly, they probably don’t care. It’s not that they aren’t wonderful people! It’s not that you don’t like them! Rather, maybe that relationship has run its course and the healthiest thing to do now is to disconnect from them. Or maybe the things they post don’t bring out the best thoughts and behaviors in you. From a personal standpoint, I’ve discovered even in the past month that Facebook friends who post about their long, grueling runs and intense workouts on a regular basis just aren’t serving me anymore. Those kinds of posts take me to places mentally that I really don’t need to return to or want to remember. And so, for my own well-being, I don’t follow them anymore. Wow! It’s such a simple thing, but it brings such freedom!
So, go ahead. If you’ve been waiting for permission, I’m giving it to you now. Hide away! Shoot…hide ME if you need to! Do what you need to do to stay in a good place mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Purge the clutter and embrace the people and values that truly inspire you to pursue the very best version of yourself. I wish you success!
Note: I came up with so many ideas as I brainstormed for this post that I decided it would work better as a series. As more things come to me, I’ll continue to add on related segments, and I’d love to hear your ideas as well! If you didn’t know this already, all of you are free to add your own thoughts on my Good Life Architect Facebook page, and not just as a reply to me, but as an original post to which I and others can then reply. I can’t tell you how much I would love that.